Ethics & Etiquette Curriculum

Shaloh House Jewish Day School © 2005



V’Ahavta LeRayacha Komocha –
You Should Love Your Fellow Jew as You Love Yourself

  1. The main kindness you can do for another is to make them feel important
  2. How to greet someone – B’Sever Ponim Yofos – three steps
  3. When an older person enters the room
  4. How to act with newcomers
  5. The two times the Torah says you are encouraged to lie
  6. Knowing what someone else likes and doesn’t like helps us treat them well – (Game: Person 1: I like ice cream. Person 2: Sara likes ice cream and I like…)



Yagati U’Matzasi, Taamin – If You Try with All Your Heart, You’ll Be Sure to Succeed

  1. Examine the possuk – does it make sense? What then must true success mean Jewishly?
  2. Who is the bigger success – the child who doesn’t try and gets and A+, or the child who tries with all his might and gets a B- ? What to say to ourselves when we don’t do as well as we’d like (Worksheet)
  3. Repeated tries lead to success – H-shem loves effort and rewards it.
  4. The value of mistakes – the only way we learn
  5. “David” the child who never gave up playing baseball, win or lose, because he knew each time at bat made him a better player



L’Hios Lo Dira B’Tachtonim – The Purpose of the World and of me, is to make a home for H-shem down here

  1. H-shem is at home in cleanliness – the importance of washing our hands after the bathroom. (Discussion)
  2. H-shem is at home in orderliness – the importance of keeping our working areas neat (including our backpacks): (Every child takes on a good resolution.)
  3. H-shem is at home in happiness – How to keep ourselves happy, even when things don’t go the way we’d like them to. (Worksheet)



Breishis Bara Elokim es HaShomayim v’es HaAretz
– The World is H-shem’s, and We are the Guests

  1. When you are a guest in another person’s home – a) You must be careful of their property, b) You must thank them for all you receive, c) You must ask permission before you use anything, and d) You must remember – you’re not at home! (These apply with our relationship with H-shem as well.) (Role playing) 
  2. When you are the host – 1) Make sure your guests have food and drink, 2) Give them the best of what you have – the best seat, the best food and the best toy, 2) If they thank you, tell them the thanks goes to H-shem, the Provider of us all. (Role playing)



Shma Yisroel H-shem Elokeinu H-shem Echod – H-shem is Everywhere, so There’s Nothing to Fear

  1. What does it mean that H-shem is Everywhere? (They brainstorm situations that would usually make them afraid.) Does it mean He’s with us when we’re laying down in the dark?
  2. The lessons about fear the Baal Shem Tov’s father taught him
  3. The need to be cautious, even if we’re fearless. The Torah does not allow us to put ourselves into dangerous situations. Even if we’re not afraid, we must protect ourselves – we’re H-shem’s property after all!



Vi-Heenay H-shem Nitzav Olov U’Mlo Kol HaAretz Kivodo – H-shem sees all I  do, and no one is more important to him than I am.

  1. The foundation of self-esteem – no one is more important to H-shem than I am.
  2. He sees everything we do – the importance of honesty. (Don’t sign your parents’ names to your homework sheets, don’t hit others – don’t think someone doesn’t see. The story of the wagon driver who grazed his horse’s in someone else’s field.)
  3. He sees into our hearts – even our feelings towards others are open to Him.



Vi-Ameich koolom tzadikim, l-olom yirshu aretz – G‑d takes special pride in each and every Jew.

  1. Koolom tzaddikim – never judge your fellow Jew or think you are better than him. You may just have gotten an easier “lot” than him – more loving parents, an easier personality.
  2. Koolom tzaddikim – We are all part of one larger soul, and we must help each other and share with each other. If you have something good, share it with a friend. (Share stories of generosity you have each seen).
  3. Purim – the holiday of brotherly love. Gifts to the poor; gifts to friends. Projects: Make a gift for the poor; make shaloch mones for friends.



Chayav Odom Liros es Atzmo -  ki-eelu hoo yotzo mee-Mitzraim – Every single day, we must thank H-shem for making us free people.

  1. We know H-shem brought us out of Egypt to be free – but what is freedom? (They give ideas). Can you be free by serving H-shem? Is freedom knowing what we have to do? Torah has a lot of rules – can you be free with a lot of rules?
  2. Fun vs. wildness – true freedom doesn’t mean being wild.
  3. We were freed from Egypt to become H-shem’s people – His representatives in the world. What does it mean to be a representative of H-shem?   -----Acting in ways that bring praise to our Creator: Clothing: Modest style, neat (shirts tucked in, kneesocks pulled up). Body – Posture, head held high, a smiling face- you’re a Jew, the best thing in the world to be - no grumpy faces! (Compare magazine photos.)
  4. How we behave outside our homes – at concerts, libraries.



B’Shivtecha b’vaysecha, u’velechtecha va-derech – I’m a Jew when I wake up and when I sleep, whether I’m in my house or anywhere I can be found.

  1. I must be a mentch whether I’m in the street or at home – there’s no difference.
  2. When is there a difference between the street and the home? The concept of privacy – we don’t share embarrassing information about our homes when we are out in the streets. What kinds of things don’t we tell others? (Parents’ ages…)
  3. When I wake up and when I lay down – our first and last thoughts of the day are G‑dly (Modeh, Shma) because we want the start of our day and the start of our night to be the best they can be. Are you saying Modeh and Shma at home? Contest.



Ki karov elecha hadovor mi-oyd, be-feechaw oo-veelvawvchaw la-so-so. Torah is not in some far away heaven, but as close as my next kind deed on earth.

  1. The main thing is the deed – make our own charity boxes.
  2. The main thing is the deed – say little and do much.
  3. The main thing is the deed – saying a kind word to others – call a grandparent or an older person who needs a “hello!” (Arrange a trip to Ulin House.)